Words and Misinterpretations

Yep, I fell behind. I know it's been a long time. I've had plenty of things to say but never got around to writing them down. That's a bullshit answer, really. I've always had the time to do it but I am too lazy to put down the chocolate bar, get my fat ass off the couch and walk over to the computer. Three simple steps to doing what I vowed to do on a regular basis. Maybe writing down what's in my head is scarier than I thought. Understanding the shit rolling around this head of mine is quite a daunting task, don't you think? But it must be done....

Words. They can get you into trouble whether you want it to or not. What you say, how you say it, what words you use and in what order - all and any of it - can be bad. Why is it that the words and what you're trying to say never come out exactly as it's been rehearsed in your head? You take the time to put your thoughts together then write it down, then read it, it usually sounds exactly how it sounded in your head. Then someone reads it and all hell brakes loose. "Wait!! That's not what I meant!!" "Well, that's how I read it..fuck you.." Shit. But that's not what it said...........

It's true. What you say goes out into the universe and you can't take it back. But what about writing it? It can be erased, deleted...visually gone forever. Yeah, you may have read it and now you remember it but only what you THINK it said and usually it's five times worse than what it really was. Then I have to defend what I wrote but why should I have to defend something that I wrote?? How did a simple statement get blown to such enormous proportions that it then becomes a defense in not only the right to say whatever the hell I want to defending your character?? How did I get HERE?

The problem is this: You read what I wrote but didn't really think about who wrote it and why they wrote it and immediately assumed the worse. How about giving them the benefit of the doubt and really think about all the possible scenarios of WHY this was writing BEFORE you shit all over them. Is that too much to ask?

Assumption is a dangerous thing. You know what they say about the word "assume", don't you? When you assume. it makes an "ass" out of "u" and "me".

Within the last two months I've had several instances where people are upset about something that was said and automatically assumed the worse rather than stepping back and thinking things through. It's like it's easier to think poorly of me rather then think about it and realized you know me better than that. Think before you act...please....you won't be pissed off and hurt and I won't either. Step back, count to ten, use your inside voice and politely ask, "What the hell was that all about, Janine??" Now, was that so hard?? :)